Keys to Success 6 : Expectations 0 32

Keys to Success 6 : Expectations 0 33

Keys to Success : Expectations

Expectations is the way to reality

“Now we are where our thoughts Bring our .. and we will be tomorrow where our thoughts take us” James Alan

Rang the phone and everyone slept in the middle of the night and I woke up Johnny suddenly from sleep panicked and took to cry and she says, “this phone is certain that about my dad will tell me now that he has died it is certain that this phone carries news painful I could not respond On this call, “.. and took a cry nervously, I wake up and wonder what all the news, and finally taking her husband headset phone and discovered that she call by mistake and they were not intended in this call.
And now .. Does it happened to pass such experience?

What happens if you are driving your car on your way to work and suddenly noticed that a police car follow you in the same way? What Expect? .. You have probably increased blood pressure, and notes that the police car beside you passed on the way to somewhere else.

And what happens if you arrived at your place of work and one of your colleagues tell you that your boss asked to meet you, what Expect? Maybe you expect that he will dismiss you from working and is in fact wants to invite you to dinner.

There are some people who are experts in thinking about everything bad and painful and always expect that this is what will happen in any case.
It is important to know that it is possible to be full of enthusiasm and energy and you have many skills and put all this into practice mentally and physically, but if you do not expect success will fail, all successful in life united by one thing and is watching the best of what life Whatever happened to them and they expect success more than anything else .. Expectation exactly like the car that takes you to where you want to go and as wise Konfeaches said, “what you are today is the result of all your thoughts.”

And now you this question .. Do you believe in a steady drumbeat of ideas? Did you thought about someone and at the same moment and grandmother calling you by telephone? Or do you expect something and then this thing happened already for example to find a place to park your car in the street in the very congestion?

If this happens then you have passed the test, “the law of expectations” and that the law says “all what you expect will happen with complete confidence in your life already.”
And we know through science metaphysicsthat the mind like a magnet attracts people and situations and conditions for cases of similar ideas” ..

When we think in a positive way attract us by the positive attitudes and the opposite happens when we think in a negative way, we attract definitely us negative attitudes, and in this Horace said, “we often get what we expected” and it happened to the wounds of the famous brain Dr. David Kosin he predicted he would die brain cancer and it has actually happened and also that the expected Alone mothers that their children will enter the prison on charges of theft and may actually happened that when the aggrandize of her children have spent time in prison for stealing a car, and have said that their mother was Always frequency that they one day would be their fate prison !!

There are those who say, “How do I expect anything become of this life? I work pretty much every day hard, and I have five children and I have problems at work and at home so that I can not pay all the monthly dues and be lucky if it barely was able to keep on what I have actually, and after this you want me to expect good .. you are absolutely kidding. “

Of course all of us can afford to think in the same way so that it is possible to write a book about everything that an error occurs in this life and cause us problems and wonder how this world is not fair for us, but at the same time that some scarring luck of what they receive in this minimum there other people living their dreams and expect success always and already succeed .. and you have to think and if for a moment in every successful bone who faced significant obstacles, but they predicted success and actually succeeded, and when their lives people live miserable way it is because of expectations that negative things will happen to them and indeed this is what they can get in this life.

Dr. Norman Vincennes Bill and said, “It is possible to expect better things for ourselves despite the bad conditions but the amazing fact is that when we look and we expect a good thing we often find him.”

Persons hapless focuses on failures and weaknesses in them, but happy they are focusing on the strengths in them and their ability to innovate Whatever your expectations, whether negative or positive, it will determine your own destiny, and there is wisdom says “we are causing in the formation and accumulation of barrier dust and then complain about the inability the vision, “we expect failure and when we get it we complain and mourn our luck .. when you programmed your mind on positive outlook will start on your way to use your abilities and the fact only be able to achieve your dreams.

The subconscious mind does not differentiate between truth and non-truth and do not make sense of things and is doing what is dictated by you on that, if you said to yourself, “I can do I do that” or, if you said to yourself, “I can not do that” what you say to your subconscious mind is the one who actually going to happen.

Now Here’s the recipe to get the positive outlook:
1 – When you feel like you’re telling yourself negative things you have to take notice immediately and order your subconscious mind cancellation .. “any cancellation of these negative things.”

2 – You change the negatives into positives. If you heard yourself say, “I can not do that and I will not be successful,” you alter this message to “I can do that and restocked, and if it is possible for anyone else to succeed in that, I likewise I Success “.

3 – then act immediately depending on your plan and warn messages and negative signals received by your subconscious mind of your friends and your family and those around you, and do not allow anyone to program you to your expectations in a negative way.

4 – Start your day with positive expectations and tell yourself, “I expect it to be an excellent day today,” knowing that something good will happen to you.

5 – Expect the good and the best in people and the best of the best of what positions and in life.

Starting today rose your expectations and be always optimistic .. Helen kil, “he said the optimism is the faith that leads to success.”

And focused energy on the positive results that may be obtained.

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How to Manage Stress with these strategies 0 36

There are many variants when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you can carry once you head out that door. You can’t blame them for being like that; they have their own reasons, so much like we have our reasons to allow stress to weigh us down. They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what’s bugging you anyway?

Is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say– every minute counts.

Managing time

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

• Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself.
• Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time.
• Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you.
• Manage your commitments by not over- or undercommitting. Don’t commit to what is not important to you.

• Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines.
• Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like.

Build healthy coping strategies

     It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.



Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

• Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations.
• Have a sense of purpose in life.
• Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping.
• Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress.
• Get moderate exercise throughout the week.
• Limit your consumption of alcohol.
• Don’t smoke.

Social support

     Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

      When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body’s stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.
• Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress.
• Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly.
• Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it.
• Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style.

Self-confidence is the key to happiness 45 131

          Self-confidence is not a gift from heaven, we are craftsmen. Similarly, we built a temporary or chronic lack of confidence following an unfortunate event or untoward behavior on the part of others. 

In all cases, it is not inevitable, then take our trowels and hammers: Martine Teillac, psychoanalyst, gives us 3 keys to build self-confidence:

Set self-confidence

According Direct 8, 75% of people lack confidence.  Who has never felt uncomfortable facing a given situation, often without daring to say and whose professional projects found themselves  hampered? deficit, even minor, self-confidence can transform certain actions to be undertaken
 in energy-consuming tests: talk about yourself in a job interview, convince a potential partner, 
pick up the phone, build or interact with its network etc…
And there is no universally difficult actions to take or not: the uncomfortable feeling will lodge where the lack of confidence is expressed, which varies according to the people. So needless to say, 
“There is nothing to fear” to an anxious person to the idea of passing a job interview because the reason has nothing to do with it.
   In  thesetimes orstandard dictates tobe outgoingand dynamic, it combines a little too quickly the
 lack of self-confidence with shyness.

No need to be an introvert shy back carp release stashed under  rocks to insecure in certain 
Because  confidence is the idea that we have of our ability to cope with a given situation. 
So, it is obviously impossible to feel sure (e) self permanently, because we do not  have all the skills necessary to cope with everything.
However, well known and recognized our capabilities allows you to feel more serene face the vagaries of our professional lives.
The consequences of lack of insurance
The discomfort that results from lack of confidence can generate a good penalizing  relational awkwardness:
  • Hesitant behavior, begging, victimization
  • Devaluation of skills
  •  Convers Ely: over estimation, arrogance etc…
In short, lack of self-confidence can lead straight to failure strategies and procrastination.
Rebuilding self-confidence
The lack of insurance or self-confidence is not inevitable:
Self-confidence is built, is shaped and maintained through technical and practical action. Martine Teillac, psychoanalyst and  psychotherapist, in an interview for Direct 8 says that construction  work is based on three aspects: 

1.  the inner speech

        Let exacerbate our faults and forget our qualities. “The internal dialogue (…)will condition our behavior, explains Martine Teillac.
 It can be very simple sentences, for example, I meet  my neighbor who does not say hello to me and I said “damn I suck (it).” I would have thought ” my neighbor has concerns, she did not head to that”
 and I do not put myself in question. “In other words, in our inner speech repents all that is of the order of the devaluation, the misinterpretation that disparages us and replace those thoughts with 
a more objective speech (not positive), so avoid a crippling devaluation and promote a look at itself more caring and motivating..

  2. building its own scale of values: detach from the past


   “When we had parents who always put his finger on what was wrong, we will tend to do the same. So put the past in its place, reconsider criticism from parents, orders and build our own system of values, our own personal level, “advises the analyst.
Education and those who are responsible have transmitted wagons limiting beliefs that maintain a look and a negative mindset about ourselves. Give them their beliefs and build belief systems of our
 own, which are what we think and what we believe helps.

  3.  passage to action accompanied by talent assessment implemented

The transition to action, even do it in small steps rather than jumping into the deep end of  a sudden is the prerequisite of strengthening confidence because it brings us evidence of our ability every  challenge statement.
Martine Teillac offers self-evaluate, on a scale of 1 to 10, our confidence in specific situations.
 “It’s a safe bet that you’ll rarely zero point of your ability, your expertise or skills“.
 Realizing this, “you’re going to build on the fact that the estimate you were doing yourself  was perhaps not so amazingly severe and in line with the reality of behavior that you implement.” 
This finding supports the move to action, as a result of this awareness and analysis skills,
 resources, skills, talents we have, we are more likely to want to act, including outside our comfort zone.

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