Keys to Success 8 : Flexibility 3 54

Keys to Success 8 : Flexibility 3 55


                            “Wisdom is plus meditation experience“. Aristutens

There was a fly trying to get out of the window closed and remained hovering and spin from left to right and from top to bottom to be carried out all their energy, and she died, and was near the door open and they did not even try to look for another way to get out and insisted on the one way back behind the other until she died, and was in its ability to get out of this predicament if they only tried.

A search was conducted on mice to see the ability to act they put a rat in a maze, and most recently in a piece of cheese and mouse began looking and looking, and every time you try a different tender that finally arrived for the piece of cheese and eaten. And it continued to experiment and is charge of it the place where the piece of cheese are placed and re-mouse again to a maze of place the beginning of a different, and of course, was the mouse former to the place where he found piece of cheese in the first time, but he did not find anything, and has been looking for in all an experienced anywhere other ways to get to that obtained in the end because of the advantage of flexibility.

Is there a difference between the behavior of the fly and the behavior of the mouse?
Of course there is a difference .. fly was insisting on going out of the window, but did not have the flexibility to look for a way out another, and the mouse was also insisting on a piece of cheese, but it was very flexible as it is every time faced with any obstacle or failure it stood for several seconds and change his plan and act quickly and thus won the reward and earned a piece of cheese at the end.

It is possible to be very enthusiastic and energy are too many and you have many skills and behave mentally and physically according to all that and be have full determination, but if you do not have flexible and willing to change your plan every time you face challenges and difficulties, it is possible that fail, as happened exactly to fly.

In the book “self-greatness” Charles Geevins “he said repeat the same attempts that lead to success will not change the outcome no matter how many attempts” . That is, it is possible that the business fails and tension and relationships end and announce companies go bankrupt and people lose control of their senses because they are trying to repeat the things that did not work before, and Some people are coming out of a bad relationship only to fall into another bad relationship exactly like her, or that a person leaves a job is tempting to join another, do not differ by much, Flexibility is one of the primary keys to success.

This is because the secret of Japanese success to their ability to rapidly adapt to others, and always do good of their achievements .. The Japanese have a very faith in three words and live them and They apply in their daily lives:
The first word is Konechua and meaning “Welcome” and their greeting each other, and they also greet a stranger offset and add to that permanent smile.
The second word is Ariviato and meaning “thank you” and that they appreciate others and thank him.
The third word is Kaizen and meaning “continuous improvement” because they do everything they are doing and have right better than anyone else.

Flexibility and adaptation closer to achieving your goals, the captain is always ready to modify its trajectory throughout the journey until it reaches its end in the end.
And Dennis had said Whatley, in his book “fun work” “scientists do not know precisely what happened to the dinosaur, but they agree that he has not been able to adapt to environmental changes around it, the opposite of what they say about the rhinoceros, it does exist with us about 7 million of years and because of the excellent abilities to cope and deal with others”.

There Default NLP says thatflexibility is the control  .. most flexible in his style will be governed in more things.”

There is a story about resilience tells the story of a fishermen who was hunted and whenever graduated him a small fish were kept, and every time you go out big fish was thrown out at sea again, approached him a people and asked him and may overcome by curiosity. ” Is it possible to explain to me the secret of you received a big fish back to the sea and only a small fish reserves, “replied the fisherman and said,” I am very sad for this act, but I am compelled to it and I had no any other way as much as the cook a very small fish and I can not cook big fish in it so it threw him into the water again !! ..
If I have this fisherman sufficient flexibility he would have reviewed the possibilities and abilities, and he found a solution to that problem and what has all this big fish.

You also need to be flexible and ready for the word yourself and change your plan, because you will face significant challenges in life, it is possible, for example, to lose your job or be separated from your partner and all relationships end between you, you fortify yourself flexible enough to do all the necessary changes even stand on your feet again and going in the right way.

Let me ask you this question .. if you decided to spend a day at the seaside, and you order and processing everything, and took the dream to spend lovely time .. What do you do if the rain began to come down? .. Do you will spend the day at home, and my chest full of upset and kept complaining about the weather? .. Or take the family to spend the day somewhere else? .. Or invite some friends to visit you on this day?

Similarly, if the road, which I used to always overwhelmingly in the morning and you are going to work is closed to fix what do you do? ..Will you return to the house? ..Or do you look for another way?

Now Here’s the recipe to achieve the degree of flexibility:
1 –  Make a list of your goals, and then and arrange them according to priorities.
2 – Select the goal you want to achieve more than any other goal.
3 – Write down the three plans can help you achieve your goal, so that if one of the plans are ready and other plans did not work.
4 – predicted in advance the obstacles that could set up the experience and solutions to them.
5 – Make your mind is always receptive to new ideas.

6 – a day devoted time to review your plan and look for way to improve any situation, beginning with the day and be ready for any change, and then fortify yourself flexible .. you will feel the change in your life for the better and will reach the pinnacle of success and happiness.
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  1. To live trough failure successfully we may need to change the way we think about failure. Rather than viewing failure in a negative way where we put ourselves down and think WE are a failure, think of failure as a valuable learning experience. The only real failure is not learning from our mistakes.

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Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before 2017 0 38

Be all you can be,I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it’s hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed.

“Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.”
So we’re all pelted with problems. Honestly it shouldn’t even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

1. What do I really want?

The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.
Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Should I really change?

Today’s generation has taken another level of redefining ‘self’, or at least that’s what the kids are saying. Having an army of teenage nieces and nephews has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle?

If history has taught us one thing, it’s the life that we have gone through. Try to see if partying Seventies style wouldn’t appeal to the younger generation, but dancing is part of partying. Watch them applaud after showing them how to really dance than break their bones in break-dancing.

3. What’s the bright side in all of this?

With so much is happening around us there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it’s a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see what makes the world go round!

4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?

There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with which shoes, or purse, shirt and whatnot. It doesn’t take a genius to see yourself as someone unique, or else we’ll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting questions to be experimented.

5. Have I done enough for myself?

Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you’ll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?

It’s an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?

So maybe I don’t have an answer to that, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try it, though. Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.

8. How much could I have?

I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. I’d like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is that how much are you willing to work for it?

9. What motivates me?

What motivates you? It’s an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose one of the may be the hardest part. It’s not like you can’t have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that’s it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?

So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be, but to realize that attaining something that may seem very difficult is already giving up before you even start that journey. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo, but it’s something that you really want.

How to Manage Stress with these strategies 0 36

There are many variants when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you can carry once you head out that door. You can’t blame them for being like that; they have their own reasons, so much like we have our reasons to allow stress to weigh us down. They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what’s bugging you anyway?

Is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say– every minute counts.

Managing time

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

• Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself.
• Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time.
• Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you.
• Manage your commitments by not over- or undercommitting. Don’t commit to what is not important to you.

• Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines.
• Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like.

Build healthy coping strategies

     It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.



Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

• Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations.
• Have a sense of purpose in life.
• Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping.
• Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress.
• Get moderate exercise throughout the week.
• Limit your consumption of alcohol.
• Don’t smoke.

Social support

     Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

      When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body’s stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.
• Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress.
• Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly.
• Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it.
• Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style.

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