The power of change 0 30

     If failures (sensory or just) leads to a bad impression about the self, success also leads to good self-esteem, but success rarely comes  suddenly, it comes from paying attention to the rules, for example, win football games through the provisions of Defense and close control of competitors than achieved by the unexpected event artisticor dramatic breakthroughs prove memory. And in the game of baseball, generally win by hitting the ball with the racket of only one throw. 
The races that take place within the family is not the rule, but the exception.We rarely turn suddenly walk slowly and aimlessly to long jump at once.we should achieve small victories in succession to come a day when wemay realize we won the war.

    Often see self as something fixed inside us, while we in truth nature flexible and varies depending on the aspects of our lives, when suddenly everything collapses-work and love and outward appearance and friendshipsand family, we feel our value breaks down in the case. Everyone of us has passed with success stories and other unsuccessful, sometimes we continuance Summit,and other times we find life once caught soak. But we feel insecure for the wrong belief that we are the cause of all problems, and worse, a both of us somehow feel that the only person on Earth who passed these tests failed, even though we know very well that this belief is silly.

  To change something that resist all beings, possibly due to fear of the unknown, continue in the things the way that performance we used it involvesless risk.We sometimes refuse to be changed, even if we realized that the lack of change us can perpetuate the problems that we are trying to overcome them, and to understand very well that the pain that We suffer if we changed the least of which we suffer if things remain as they are, we will continue to oppose that we do things in leaving .

    In the 1992 presidential election, for example, polls indicated that voters are not enthusiastic about a candidate, to the extent that they oppose other candidates, voted 58 percent of voters to President Clinton’s interest, but only 43% admitted that the damage would be in the United States if itcontinued on this course would be the largest n the damage would be if changed. That was enough to give Clinton a chance to win the election.

    We must take advantage of this information in dealing with change.  By increasing self-doubt when we confront a serious challenge and for the first time, if we become aware that we are dealing with a fear of change, it will help greatly in overcoming it. If we know that resistance to change is inherent to every human being, and that face each of us, and we must overcome, we tried the courage to try something new.

  There are specific things you can do to proceed in a positive and healthy image of yourself, and to take responsibility for your life, and live it your way. You can apply the following seven techniques for flying solo:

   1. evaluate yourself and then accept: never seriously review the strengths and weaknesses, and select what you love for yourself, and dislikes.

   2. check your values and principles: do you have the values and principles of clear and specific according to live always?

   3. calculate ventured: reduce risks through informed thinking in alternatives, but don’t be afraid to try something new when odds of success in your business.

    4. learning from to fail : the errors are not immortal, learn them, and moved them to another challenge.

    5. live in the future: do not sink into the past, to revive the failed tests, or trying to win your mind n to previous achievements.

    6. choose effects Positive: 

    7. student with respect: If you don’t like the way you treat others with you, tell them so. tell your friends and family and colleagues you expect them the same respect and appreciation that has them.

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How to Manage Stress with these strategies 0 40

There are many variants when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you can carry once you head out that door. You can’t blame them for being like that; they have their own reasons, so much like we have our reasons to allow stress to weigh us down. They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what’s bugging you anyway?

Is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say– every minute counts.

Managing time

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

• Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself.
• Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time.
• Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you.
• Manage your commitments by not over- or undercommitting. Don’t commit to what is not important to you.

• Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines.
• Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like.

Build healthy coping strategies

     It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.



Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

• Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations.
• Have a sense of purpose in life.
• Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping.
• Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress.
• Get moderate exercise throughout the week.
• Limit your consumption of alcohol.
• Don’t smoke.

Social support

     Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

      When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body’s stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.
• Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress.
• Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly.
• Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it.
• Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style.

Self-confidence is the key to happiness 45 136

          Self-confidence is not a gift from heaven, we are craftsmen. Similarly, we built a temporary or chronic lack of confidence following an unfortunate event or untoward behavior on the part of others. 

In all cases, it is not inevitable, then take our trowels and hammers: Martine Teillac, psychoanalyst, gives us 3 keys to build self-confidence:

Set self-confidence

According Direct 8, 75% of people lack confidence.  Who has never felt uncomfortable facing a given situation, often without daring to say and whose professional projects found themselves  hampered? deficit, even minor, self-confidence can transform certain actions to be undertaken
 in energy-consuming tests: talk about yourself in a job interview, convince a potential partner, 
pick up the phone, build or interact with its network etc…
And there is no universally difficult actions to take or not: the uncomfortable feeling will lodge where the lack of confidence is expressed, which varies according to the people. So needless to say, 
“There is nothing to fear” to an anxious person to the idea of passing a job interview because the reason has nothing to do with it.
   In  thesetimes orstandard dictates tobe outgoingand dynamic, it combines a little too quickly the
 lack of self-confidence with shyness.

No need to be an introvert shy back carp release stashed under  rocks to insecure in certain 
Because  confidence is the idea that we have of our ability to cope with a given situation. 
So, it is obviously impossible to feel sure (e) self permanently, because we do not  have all the skills necessary to cope with everything.
However, well known and recognized our capabilities allows you to feel more serene face the vagaries of our professional lives.
The consequences of lack of insurance
The discomfort that results from lack of confidence can generate a good penalizing  relational awkwardness:
  • Hesitant behavior, begging, victimization
  • Devaluation of skills
  •  Convers Ely: over estimation, arrogance etc…
In short, lack of self-confidence can lead straight to failure strategies and procrastination.
Rebuilding self-confidence
The lack of insurance or self-confidence is not inevitable:
Self-confidence is built, is shaped and maintained through technical and practical action. Martine Teillac, psychoanalyst and  psychotherapist, in an interview for Direct 8 says that construction  work is based on three aspects: 

1.  the inner speech

        Let exacerbate our faults and forget our qualities. “The internal dialogue (…)will condition our behavior, explains Martine Teillac.
 It can be very simple sentences, for example, I meet  my neighbor who does not say hello to me and I said “damn I suck (it).” I would have thought ” my neighbor has concerns, she did not head to that”
 and I do not put myself in question. “In other words, in our inner speech repents all that is of the order of the devaluation, the misinterpretation that disparages us and replace those thoughts with 
a more objective speech (not positive), so avoid a crippling devaluation and promote a look at itself more caring and motivating..

  2. building its own scale of values: detach from the past


   “When we had parents who always put his finger on what was wrong, we will tend to do the same. So put the past in its place, reconsider criticism from parents, orders and build our own system of values, our own personal level, “advises the analyst.
Education and those who are responsible have transmitted wagons limiting beliefs that maintain a look and a negative mindset about ourselves. Give them their beliefs and build belief systems of our
 own, which are what we think and what we believe helps.

  3.  passage to action accompanied by talent assessment implemented

The transition to action, even do it in small steps rather than jumping into the deep end of  a sudden is the prerequisite of strengthening confidence because it brings us evidence of our ability every  challenge statement.
Martine Teillac offers self-evaluate, on a scale of 1 to 10, our confidence in specific situations.
 “It’s a safe bet that you’ll rarely zero point of your ability, your expertise or skills“.
 Realizing this, “you’re going to build on the fact that the estimate you were doing yourself  was perhaps not so amazingly severe and in line with the reality of behavior that you implement.” 
This finding supports the move to action, as a result of this awareness and analysis skills,
 resources, skills, talents we have, we are more likely to want to act, including outside our comfort zone.

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