If I get to that I was happy, and then when they realized what they want, they return to the starting point, and asking for more. I know a man did everything in his power to marry a certain woman, and is now trying to get rid of them. And there is a friend who wanted to have a child, now complains about his three children. But the truth is that this is the nature of human beings, taking into account that the tension may be useful to a certain extent, then it becomes deadly, and this tension is useful examples:
– A hard-working manager until the end of the project in time, of course, face the stress, and he has to accumulate work pressures, but this kind of stress helps him to finish his work on time.
– Student Nerd diligently till succeed in the exam, he Vigil at night, and wake up early to Nerd This kind of stress is assisted to achieve the certificate to seek it.
Some people are full of stress practicing sports such as boxing, wrestling,or skiing over ice, but they enjoy it, and make them enjoy life.
Dr.. Peter J.hanson
And stress can affect people of altered their hobby, and their job, and their environment. The each one of us has been the victim of tension in the stage of his life, but when he reaches this tension range, it leads to frustration and anger, anxiety and high blood pressure and headaches and heart attacks and other deadly diseases.
In 1977, the International Science Foundation in the United States study found that stress is one of the main problems that affect our daily lives, and it can lead to mental deficiencies, physical, social, and it causes the loss of $ 10 million a year is spent on hospital beds, days without work, compensation, and cases of premature deaths.
– Which is better: too little or too much:
“Life is not just to be alive, but to be in good health,” Marshall
Is the tension useful or harmful to us? Sees D.peter j.hanson in his book fun tension : “very little and too much, both of which harm in,” one of directors and who works late every day lost his health, his family, and his personal life, will become nervous Like the manager who It works, and the boss does not stimulated and heaviness his a lot of work.
Tension over-limit reduces the productivity of the individual, and makes him lose focus and confidence in himself, which affects his feelings, and his state of mind, and thus may cause the incidence of certain fatal diseases.
The tension is very little, the person who used to work all his life, then retire without work, he feels the loss of confidence and lack of self-esteem, which may cause fatal diseases, if this person could not in two years to work in any activity that restored some tension required and useful to him, that in the opinion of D.hanson.
If the tension of comparable gravity as a reality in our lives, so why should not people trying to put him in mind?
Why do people deny that they do not they are going through? And why they think it is something that affects others, and they do not suffer?
It is not in our power to remove the tension, but we can control it and learning how we can eliminate the bad effects. This goal of this post is to be able to control the tension, and strategies are made in defense of yourself. You must first identify the tension, and to recognize that located underneath.
So you need to be your conscious mind aware of the order, so that the unconscious mind can defend you against stress, and will be so in a way mechanism. This way you will be able to enjoy a happy life because you will be subject to tension, employed to achieve your goals, and access to success.
– The causes of tension:
“There is no tension in the world, but there are people who are thinking about things of concern”Dr. Wayne
The reasons for the tension of altered attitudes and circumstances, could be the reason lies in your own life and your working conditions, your health, or financial circumstances.
In a study of 300 managers in 12 different company, Dr. John H.howard decided: “that there are four major characteristics that can lead to tension when executives”
1 – the deficit:
It may feel a managers of helplessness and it is not about him and do not force when they can find the right solution to a problem, but he can not because of company policies to make a decision himself, but he has to wait until his superiors issue a decision, which creates inside the sense of frustration and helplessness, and thus the tension.
Herodotus great philosopher said: “The most common types of pain when bitter one, is to have a lot of knowledge, but it does not have power.”
2 – doubt and uncertainty:
Usually problems encountered working non-specific, which may cause a kind of uncertainty, when the Director that a decision taken based on the information is uncertain, or the work is a clear policy, it would be difficult in front of him because to take the appropriate decision and the right, causing tension.
3 – Stress at work:
Of natural range Action Director between 55 hours to 65 hours a week, and most presidents are focusing only on the results, regardless of the number of hours worked by the Director, this stress at work creates tension, and may also cause some problems and difficulties in the life of Director Personal.
4 – urgency:
Mentions d. Howard: “The manager is doing different every seven minutes on average,” Projects or urgent reports to cause a lot of pressure on the manager, leading to a sense of tension.
And also he says: “The poor management is the main cause of tension in the life of the manager, if the boss lacks the necessary skills and the ability to plan, nor does it settle opinion, and can not deal with others.”
Face to yourself the following questions:
– What is the worst thing that could happen to me?
– What might happen to me?
– What is the best thing that could happen to me?
Say to yourself will take care of this matter.
log problem .. and five possible solutions to them.
7 – ideal
Taken a person you admire him, and have a degree of wisdom and ability to solve problems easily, and this person may have personal knowledge of a person you know, or may be of a personal-making imagination. When you experience a problem, imagine you are this person, think the same way to reach solutions to your problem.
8 – breathing 4-2 – 8 system:
Sit down and focus your attention on your breathing .Make sure not to be a bother for ten minutes at least.
– Take yourself through your nose slowly and counting to 4.
– Keep yourself and count 2.
– Self slowly out of the mouth and count 8 and then say Sit back now.
– Repeat this for 10 times at least.
9 – peace of mind for 10 minutes:
Retrieve your imagination at the time, where I was at the top of relax, and remember where you are.
– Sit or stretch comfortably.
– close your eyes .
– Your imagination traveled to the place you prefer.
10 – Exercise:
The School of Medicine at the University of Masacejusch a study of 3,000 executives on how to cope with stress, and was the predominant answer is exercise.
Devoted to yourself physical activity daily to pay your tension.
Finally, not enough to know how to deal with stress, but must do something about it and be positive.