Keys to Success1: Motives 0 22

Keys to Success1: Motives 0 23

Keys to Success : Motives

The first key : Motives  

 Do you agree with me that we are without our desire is not motivated to do anything.When you have motivation and psychological motives have more enthusiasm and more power and better understand, unlike if you down don’t have the energy and focus your attention towards the  negatives only and the result is a deterioration in performanceBut what is the motivation? Whatis their origin? And how
 could havemotivated? And more importantly how keep staying with us? This is a subject we discussed in this section.

The source came from the Latin word (Matere) and Means moves, and dictionary (webster) the word motive as the thing that drives human action or movement.

The story: a young man went to a wise for China to learn from him the secret of success, and asked him, can you remember me what is the secretof success? ٌ… Wise Chinese replied 
softly and told him the secret of successis the motivation of the young and asked him where the 
motivations?  ” Wise Chinese replied from the burning desiresand with astonishment asked young 
how have burning desires ?…ٌAnd here the wise Chinese permission for several minutes and returned with
 a large pot full of water, and the young man asked, “are you sure you want to know the source of burning desires? “… Young eagerly replied, “of course”.because there weren’t any strength can stop you “He asked Wise approaching the water container and considered, and considered the young man into thewater near and suddenly  Wise pressure with both hands on the head of a young man and put it in a bowl of water! Several seconds passed and the young man did not move, then began slowly comes out of his head,and he began to feel strangled began strongly resists even managed to redeem himselfand remove the head from the water and then looked wise and angrily asked, “what is this you have done?” and it still retains its cool and his smile asking “what did you learn from this experience?” said the young man did not “learn something”considered wise Chinese saying “Oh no I have learned a lot, built during the First seconds you want to rid yourself of water, but your motivations were not sufficient to do so, and then you always wish to rid yourself began to move and the opponent but slowly so that your motivations have not reached the highest levels, and finally became the flaming desire you have to rid yourself, only thenyou succeeded because there weren’t any strength can stop you “He said Chinese wise smile quiet “: when you have flaming desire for success, no one can stop you”.We conclude from this that the desire is the first rule for success, desire is seeding the land of success, and the secret of success is desire .

And we find three types of motivations :

– The first type is stay motivated:

They stay motivated is forcing man to satisfy basic needs such as food, water and air, so that if there is a lack of any basic needs, there is a fundamental human motivation within the alert brain nervous regarding this shortcoming,with the rapid movement of human physical activates neurons and has become a motivation for action necessary to satisfy this deficiency, and achieving that return the body to its natural state.
And to clarify: Let me ask you, while you cross to a highway glimpsed one of the lorries heading suddenl
on your part quickly, what would be your choice?
Of course there willbe full speed, right? And if you just came home after a stressful working day, and you don’t have the energy to do anything, and I decided to relax in front of the tv screen, but suddenly I heard one shout “fire … Fire, what would be  your choice? Tabaastghadr place as soon as possible!!! But from where I’ve come to this energy that was lacking? Reply it’s become vigilant and strong.

And from it whatever way your life if you stay vigilant and will be threatened would be stronger
 momentum to save yourself. And you can imagine if you have this kind of enthusiasm always how will
 be your strength and how much better results will accordingly.

– The second type of motivation is external motivation:

This kind of motivation is exported to the outside world, as an excellent lecturer, friends or family or magazines or books or superiors at work. Etc… external motivation problem they fade quickly.

Let me ask you: did you attended any lecture in order to activate the psychological motives? If the answer is “Yes. How much excitement about a week after the lecture? …

 And how much enthusiasm a month later then six months of lecture?  Of course the degree of enthusiasm in the lower right?

Unfortunately human relies heavily on external motivations even feel appreciated by his superiors and his  friends and family, we always need the consent of others and love always be appreciative and want people to consider us a look of respect until we value ourselves and this may be a reason sometimes act does not apply to actions with our desires and make things not necessarily emanate from us.

– The third type of motivation is internal motivation:

This kind of motivation is the most forceful ones and survival so that intrinsic motivationbe directed through your inner self that lead you to achieve great results.

Interior motives are the reason the average person to do things higher than the normal level and up to great results. Are the forces behind human success. Is the difference that explains variation in people’s lives. They force you to grow flowers yourself instead of waiting for someone to offer you shall. Interior motives is the light that radiates from ourselves. 

Are the sleeping giant inside waiting to wake him up.

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How to Manage Stress with these strategies 0 36

There are many variants when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you can carry once you head out that door. You can’t blame them for being like that; they have their own reasons, so much like we have our reasons to allow stress to weigh us down. They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what’s bugging you anyway?

Is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say– every minute counts.

Managing time

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

• Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself.
• Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time.
• Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you.
• Manage your commitments by not over- or undercommitting. Don’t commit to what is not important to you.

• Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines.
• Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like.

Build healthy coping strategies

     It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.



Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

• Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations.
• Have a sense of purpose in life.
• Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping.
• Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress.
• Get moderate exercise throughout the week.
• Limit your consumption of alcohol.
• Don’t smoke.

Social support

     Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

      When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body’s stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.
• Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress.
• Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly.
• Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it.
• Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style.

Self-confidence is the key to happiness 45 131

          Self-confidence is not a gift from heaven, we are craftsmen. Similarly, we built a temporary or chronic lack of confidence following an unfortunate event or untoward behavior on the part of others. 

In all cases, it is not inevitable, then take our trowels and hammers: Martine Teillac, psychoanalyst, gives us 3 keys to build self-confidence:

Set self-confidence

According Direct 8, 75% of people lack confidence.  Who has never felt uncomfortable facing a given situation, often without daring to say and whose professional projects found themselves  hampered? deficit, even minor, self-confidence can transform certain actions to be undertaken
 in energy-consuming tests: talk about yourself in a job interview, convince a potential partner, 
pick up the phone, build or interact with its network etc…
And there is no universally difficult actions to take or not: the uncomfortable feeling will lodge where the lack of confidence is expressed, which varies according to the people. So needless to say, 
“There is nothing to fear” to an anxious person to the idea of passing a job interview because the reason has nothing to do with it.
   In  thesetimes orstandard dictates tobe outgoingand dynamic, it combines a little too quickly the
 lack of self-confidence with shyness.

No need to be an introvert shy back carp release stashed under  rocks to insecure in certain 
Because  confidence is the idea that we have of our ability to cope with a given situation. 
So, it is obviously impossible to feel sure (e) self permanently, because we do not  have all the skills necessary to cope with everything.
However, well known and recognized our capabilities allows you to feel more serene face the vagaries of our professional lives.
The consequences of lack of insurance
The discomfort that results from lack of confidence can generate a good penalizing  relational awkwardness:
  • Hesitant behavior, begging, victimization
  • Devaluation of skills
  •  Convers Ely: over estimation, arrogance etc…
In short, lack of self-confidence can lead straight to failure strategies and procrastination.
Rebuilding self-confidence
The lack of insurance or self-confidence is not inevitable:
Self-confidence is built, is shaped and maintained through technical and practical action. Martine Teillac, psychoanalyst and  psychotherapist, in an interview for Direct 8 says that construction  work is based on three aspects: 

1.  the inner speech

        Let exacerbate our faults and forget our qualities. “The internal dialogue (…)will condition our behavior, explains Martine Teillac.
 It can be very simple sentences, for example, I meet  my neighbor who does not say hello to me and I said “damn I suck (it).” I would have thought ” my neighbor has concerns, she did not head to that”
 and I do not put myself in question. “In other words, in our inner speech repents all that is of the order of the devaluation, the misinterpretation that disparages us and replace those thoughts with 
a more objective speech (not positive), so avoid a crippling devaluation and promote a look at itself more caring and motivating..

  2. building its own scale of values: detach from the past


   “When we had parents who always put his finger on what was wrong, we will tend to do the same. So put the past in its place, reconsider criticism from parents, orders and build our own system of values, our own personal level, “advises the analyst.
Education and those who are responsible have transmitted wagons limiting beliefs that maintain a look and a negative mindset about ourselves. Give them their beliefs and build belief systems of our
 own, which are what we think and what we believe helps.

  3.  passage to action accompanied by talent assessment implemented

The transition to action, even do it in small steps rather than jumping into the deep end of  a sudden is the prerequisite of strengthening confidence because it brings us evidence of our ability every  challenge statement.
Martine Teillac offers self-evaluate, on a scale of 1 to 10, our confidence in specific situations.
 “It’s a safe bet that you’ll rarely zero point of your ability, your expertise or skills“.
 Realizing this, “you’re going to build on the fact that the estimate you were doing yourself  was perhaps not so amazingly severe and in line with the reality of behavior that you implement.” 
This finding supports the move to action, as a result of this awareness and analysis skills,
 resources, skills, talents we have, we are more likely to want to act, including outside our comfort zone.

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